When I came out
I’m 18 and I just came out to my mom. My family is old school, they don’t like gay people. I was stressed for a month before finally having the guts to tell my mom. I asked her to come to my room and close the door. It took me like 10 minutes to finally say it. She just said “how silly of you to disturb me for that”. She also told me she didn’t knew a lot about it but she will still love me the same and that I could go consult someone if I needed someone to talk to. Only my dad, sister and the rest of the family, but this won’t happen today.
Still In The Progress
I am 16-year-old male and I’ve been concidering myself as gay, like, my whole life. I was never actually sure about it until 2 years ago I got a girlfriend through an Internet. She lives 6 hours away from me. We liked same things and were alike and I liked her and she likeS me so we started dating.
During the affair I started questioning my own sexuality. Being with her (we met like once a month) didn’t help finding myself ‘cause I felt myself straight every time I was with her. I remember alway at night when we were apart I texted her sad messages about how I had a secret I didn’t want to tell and how I cried about it. I was so sad at that time and very depressed and I even concidered suicide. I was so close with her and I didn’t want to break it all.
While we had dated a year, we were chatting in the Internet, I told her how I can’t be her object of love anymore. She asked why, but I just said that I’m not ready to tell yet because it hurted so bad already. Then she said that she was feeling worse than me which was probably true. Then she went offline and we didn’t talk in two weeks. I know, I was bastard when I left her that way.
While I didn’t talk to my ex, I came out to my big brothers girlfriend who I am friends with and she was very supportive and said that I needed to tell this to my ex. And so I did. It wasn’t easy but it sure was worth it. She was so happy for me and asked why I didn’t say it in the first place. Now we are best friends and hide nothing from each other. She’s just a little bit attached to me still but it gets over
Now I’m open to all my friends but not to family. I’m scared of their reaction, especially dad’s because he is super duper homophobic. Maybe when I am able to support myself 100% I am able to tell them.
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Late bloomer
I only came out to myself at the age of 26. I remember the exact moment: I was out dancing with some friends one debacherous night, and one of them grew a little… well, affectionate, as straight(???) ladies sometimes do when they are inebriated. Out of nowhere crazy heartfeelings and pantsfeelings exploded and rainbows burst forth from my eyes and glittery confetti exploded out of my hair and unicorns danced around the room! Suddenly I wanted to be around her all the time and kiss her and go camping with her and … Yeah, I avoid that woman now.
It’s scary because being in the real world in a big city, I don’t have access the safety of the college queer community so I don’t really know where to “start”. Do I wear a rainbow hat everywhere? Get a shirt that says “Kiss me I’m Gay?” I think I’ll just start by not being too hard on myself that I’m only figuring it out now.
As for coming out to others, I have discovered the following:
-It’s been easy to come out to guy friends, gay or straight. All of the ones I hang with have been accepting, and even offer to wingman me!
-Coming out to straight girl friends has been harder, and some of them definitely treat me differently now. But my closest friends assured me that they will always be there for me. And also agreed to be my wingmen.
-The folks don’t know yet, and this is gonna take me some time. I’m deathly afraid of this step, because it will cement my identity in an irreversible way and could hurt our relationship. But they um, want grandkids, like asap, so… they should probs know the truth.
It’s a lot to process, but I hope it will be worth it and help me live a more open and fulfilled life. More love in the world is always, always a good thing.
Realization
Let’s start at the beginning. Until the age of 15, I thought I was straight. But after getting my first girlfriend, I knew something was different about me. I didn’t know what it was, but I just knew that I didn’t like dating girls.
When a gay friend of mine confessed his love for me, I thought about being with a guy, and I noticed that I liked him back. We never ended up dating, but at that time, I was convinced I was bisexual.
However, a year later (which was last November) I noticed that I started to lean more and more towards guys, and I began to lose my attraction towards girls (which ironically was never there in the first place).
Anyway, coming out of the closet was super easy for me. I told my mom first, and then my best friend Shannon. Both of those times were nerve-racking. However, over time, it became easier and easier. The hard part was telling my father…He didn’t take it so well…
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Coming out…going back into the closet…coming out again
So hi, i’m Jasmine, a 16 year old girl, and i’m something i havent titled yet..bc not sure if i’m lesbian or bi (hopefully bi). I have always kinda known i’m different.. Never checked on boys as other girls did. When they all agreed about a dude being hot, i always ended and still end up disagreeing. When i was little I didnt know that that feeling is called ‘being homosexual’.. i just knew i was different than other girls in a sertain way. I was actually 13 when i kinda understood that i am gay. And it was a shock for me and i just couldnt take it bc i had heard others making jokes on gays etc..and naturally thought it’s a bad thing. I also didnt know anyone being gay. Just some celebs who ppl laughed at. But yea, so it took me a year to accept the idea that i might be gay..and I kinda came out last year around November by telling my best friend. B4 telling her i had prepared her for it since the autumn by asking many many times that what would she say if i told her i’m gay/trans/bi? And the answer was always: “nothing, but would be shocked.” i told her after a couple moths of asking.. And she answered: “Oh really. You finally told..! I ofc guessed after so many times of asking”. Lol kinda funny now afterwards xD
100% Awkward
I’m a cisgender, lesbian female and my coming out was both hilarious and awkward and awful. A bunch of stuff, really.
Last year, I was trying to convince myself that I was heterosexual. I dated this guy (let’s call him Bob) for a while and even though we had a great time together, I had no romantic feelings for Bob. We never quite reached the bedroom but overall, we had a pretty good relationship. Or, we would have done, if I wasn’t a lesbian.
I came out to 4 people 3 girls and 1 boy. The girls took it well but the boy sort of went and told the whole school i was gay and that didn’t go well with a catholic school which was ok with some people. My mum took it well and so did my dad and his fiancee. That was ok but i got bullied by homophobic wankers. It did feel great to be accepted but not all people in Christian Ireland.
overwhelmed and overjoyed
I had been wanting to tell two of my friends for a while now, but always chickened out at the perfect opportunities. finally i was feeling so frustrated that i just told them i wanted to tell them something, which isn’t something unusual for any of us to say. it took about a week before i got to tell them. originally i had wanted to tell them at the same time, but it ended up being to my benefit to tell them separately.
I told Summer that i also wanted to tell our friend joy, but not to talk about it until i had told her myself. Summer was super accepting and listened really well to everything i had to say, even though she couldn’t understand what i was feeling. she told me a secret that i wasnt to tell joy. she told me that one of our friends who had just moved away had admitted to her once that she had lesbian feelings for her, just as i suspected, even though i knew the person she was and her beliefs would never let her act on it.
When i finally got the chance to tell joy, later that day, she admitted to me what she only admitted to her sister, and i wasn’t to tell summer, that she was definitely bisexual, as i half expected too!
I know i wouldn’t have learned either of those things had i told them at the same time, and i was sooooo happy i did! i can’t even believe how happy i am right now, and i just wish i had someone to some out to so i could share with them just how happy i am now!!
i was never worried for a second that coming out to them would be a mistake or even have negative effects, but i never expected it to go this well :)
Demolishing the closet one brick at a time
Hi, my name is Callum I’m 17 and gay.
My coming out story isn’t finished yet, far from it. And neither is it particularly special or unique. (in fact if you want to go watch family guy instead, you can; I wont judge you!)
Up until 6 months ago, I only ever dated men. As far as my family was concern, I was a straight female. I had had bi-curious tendencies, which I obviously never spoke of to my family. Why would I, if I had no intentions of acting on them?
Frustration and Relief
Hey all! My name is Heather Nicole Tshudy, Niki to most, I’m 18 and happily homosexual ^w^! I can’t look back and see a time I truly liked a guy so I guess I’ve been a lesbian since the beginning. When I was younger I did ‘date’ guys (if you could call me walking around checking out girls while whoever I was with was trying to keep my attention that) but it was all purely to fit in, and they all ended with me losing all interest and just getting very distant. And on top of that 2 of the guys I ‘dated’ turned out gay themselves (Irony am I right lol).
Coming Out On Facebook WITH MEMES
my half coming out story lol i need advice for the other half if u want to message me
ok so im natalie im 17 and a lesbian (for now) i think im bi but high school guys are stupid horny dirty hairy and disgusting anyway ever since i was little like before kindergarden i use to hate anything girly it burned i wanted to be a guy so badly i mean imagine a elementry kid crying to god every night wishing to be a boy back then i liked guys i hated girls didn’t find them interesting thought barbies and playing house or dress up was stupid oh and even to this day i WILL NOT EVERWEAR A DRESS my family (which ranges from 11-17 ppl) disaproved and bullied me on my feelings about wanting to be a guy my mom tried to be nice about it but she is very controling she tries to be excepting but her whole life shes been the leader the one everyone listens to so she wanted me to go down the right path to follow gods rules(im catholic) but i dont believe god ment that we can be gay so yah i quit wishing to be a guy it was the dream of a child lol but seeing how mean and hurtful my family was to me when i was a CHILD how they made me hate myself they made me wish i liked who i was and didn’t want to change it makes me afraid to come out to them i dont want to relive my childhood i dont want to be teased and lectured and yelled at and beat up 24/7 like before(i was never beat up by parents only my brother and he got hell for it from my parents but he will still beat me up punishment doesn’t afect him) i already come out to all my friends and im not afraid of the ppl in our friend circle to find out what im scared of is thatis they put it on facebook or say something around a family member without thinking and out me and then i end up being tortured until i can get away from all my family (which also means leaving my awesome amazing friends) :( i dont want to leave but i cant just let my family hurt me mentally and phsically I DONT KNOW WAT TO DO AND NEED HELP IF U CAN GIVE ME ADVICE MESSAGE MY TUMBLR http://foreverafriend16.tumblr.com/
OR EMAIL ME AT nataliemharvey@yahoo.com and no im not afraid that my family will find this becuz none of them would look for anything gay related online unless im not the only one
Well, here it is.
Coming out for me has been a mixed bag; while a lot of people, including most of my friends and family. However, a lot of hate has sprung up from those who didn’t really like me before. Originally, it was a little thing between me and my friends - they didn’t really mind my sexuality at all.
However, things changed when the self-propagated rumour spread that I was bisexual. For 2 years, I’ve had an onslaught of mockery and questions, both serious and sarcastic. This was not helped at all when another rumour (which I did not deny as I do not tell lies) was spread that I had gay sex. ONCE. 4 YEARS AGO. And yet people seem to think it’s the intrical thing in my personality and history. Let me tell you right now; even though that was a moderately important experience of sexual discovery in my life, I would not go so far as to make a stupid 10-year-old decision with a friend the centre of my life.
Now, there are other things people use against me. My ‘bad looks’, my love of ‘cartoon porn’ (anime), my general nerdiness and lack of being friends with more than 3 people. I feel like it’s mostly childish immaturity, but it does get annoying and it makes school life a lot less enjoyable than it should be.
Most people I meet in the real world are perfectly okay with who I am; even my 54 year old father who I though would be outraged had no conflict whatsoever with my coming out. And so I think it will get better - as more and more people around me become more knowledgable and comfortable with both their own sexuality and the sexualities of others.
Peace out, one love etc.
Cal Halzalla (pseudonym to protect myself) - I can be contacted at poisonmaster98@gmail.com with any questions or just leave a comment if you can do that on tumblr.
