Coming out to my dad
Hey guys I’m 14 and I wanted to share this story with you. So last night I came out to my dad. I wasn’t nervous as I knew he would be understanding. Since I was at dance I couldn’t speak to him face to face. So I sent him a text saying “I’m bisexual” and he replied with “as long as your doing the best in life as you can, who you’re with doesn’t matter. I love you forever and always.” I was in tears when I saw this and I’m happy he knows because I wouldn’t have wanted to keep a secret from him.
I posted before about about me coming out to my friends. I recently came out to my grandmother. It took me some time. But its been on my mind and i felt i needed to do this for myself. I thought about writing a letter but noting sounded right. I thought about just blurtin it out and it just couldnt do that either. then i decided to send a text message. i laid in bed thinkin n think and ended up chickening out. but finally i texted her this morning. i siad grandma what would u say if i told u im a lesbian. she said lol ur my granddaughter and i love u no matter wat u r. so i replied ok i love :D
feels so good to know. such a relieve
when i was still just a young teenager, 13, i used to come this tumblr page, and i read every single post on here. all because i was looking for inspiration. and you all helped me so much, it was like being part of a community of people who were all seeking love, acceptation, and support. this year i told my family, so to me i am officially out to everyone, i dont care about telling anyone that i am gay, my name is Kieran Reece Boardman amd i am gay, i am 17, and i have come back here again to say thank you so very very much for your support.
This is gonna be long, so bare with me
I guess my story starts in 5th grade, although I didn’t know I was gay at the time. There was this guy in my group of friends that I had a dream about. Not a completely appropriate dream might I add. But I had that dream, and after that I couldn’t stop thinking about him. I got this weird feeling every time I was around him, and I didn’t realize it then, but I guess i had a sort of crush on him. But like I said, I didn’t realize this so I didn’t think anything of it and I moved on. I don’t really count him as my first guy crush.
Middle school came around, and this is when puberty is hitting and you develop sexual attraction. I was attracted girls, but only emotionally. I never had any sexual attraction to a girl, but I viewed it as me controlling myself and not being a douchebag that only wants sex. So I thought I was just one of those nice guys that girls talked about and wished they had, and I always wanted to be that. I wanted to find a girl and treat her like a queen, marry her and have kids and just live a happy life. But that wasn’t the case. I realized I was sexually attracted to guys but I still didn’t think I was gay. Just thought it was a phase. At this time I still had a high pitched voice and people used to make fun of me and call me gay all the time and I’d deny it cause I honestly didn’t think I was. Then 8th grade came around.
I’ve been following this blog for a while now and I remember reading all this different stories, some were funny, others were sad, but the thing is… somehow I could relate to all of them. Looking back at where I was at the time it’s hard to believe that I could relate to anything at all, I felt like there was no one that could possibly feel what I felt. But things have changed in the last few months.
I never thought I’d feel happy again, I thought I wasn’t strong enough to be honest about who I am. But here I am, even though I’m just a 16 year old I feel like I’ve grown a lot. I’ve come out to all of my closest friends, a few not-so-close ones, one of my sisters and my mother.
Of course I still have “issues” surrounding my sexual orientation. I am scared to death to tell my extended family, let alone my dad. I find it hard to believe that I’ll find someone that understands me, and I also feel alone from time to time, but I guess that there will always be some sort of obstacles in the way and sooner or later I’ll be able to get past them.
One of the things I least expected when I came out to the closest people in my life was the way they reacted. I always though "expect the worst and you wont be disappointed”. I expected my mom to hate me and kick me out of the house, I expected my friends to turn their backs on me, but none of that happened and for that I’m very grateful.
Maybe this isn’t a coming out story at all, I’m not telling you how I came out… but it feels really good to be able to share this with someone (that someone being a complete stranger) and who knows? Maybe this will help someone somehow.
Last but not least, if you’ve taken the time to read this (thank you for that!) and you feel like I did when I started following this blog, then I want you to know that you are NOT alone, that there are always going to be people out there that love you and support you no matter what! And that includes me if you may know. :)
Message me if you want, or just read the next post. :)
When I came out as bi, I first came out to my best friend, Julia, because i was most nervous about telling her (Idk why, she is the most understanding person in the world). I was really stressed out when I told her, but after she gave me a hug and said she’d accept me for whoever I was, I felt safer because I had at least 1 person on my team.
Anyway, I was in a mall with Julia and my other close friend Sarah, and we were looking around in some clothing store when Julia asked me, “Have you told Sarah yet?” I thought about it, and whispered back, “No. Maybe I should do that.”
This time I was determined to just say it, instead of getting worked up about the reaction. I turned to Sarah (in the middle of the store) and said loudly: “HEY SARAH!”
She had the most bizarre reaction. She threw her hands in the air and yelled “AWW YEAH!!” She gave me two high fives and then said “Whenever someone comes out to me I feel like my faith in the world is restored a little bit.”
People were giving us strange looks in the store so we bolted out of there, and I still laugh just thinking about this.
Self induced awkwardness :p
It’s been a while,but i feel like sharing this story.
(I’m 16 now,and i was 15 back then)
I was at a friend’s place and we were talking about random stuff.
Eventually we somehow talked about crushes,and i said that i liked someone who doesn’t like me anyway.
He asked why not,but i didn’t want to tell but he kept bugging me and eventually i just said it(after he said something about him and a guy which is private).
And he was fine with it ^.^,and except a few lame jokes he doesn’t really care.
so yeah..nothing fancy,but i felt great after.
I came out last night
Me: There’s something I need to tell you.
Me: It’s been on my mind for a very long time, and well….
Me: …you know how I use the identifier queer? It’s because I feel queer when it comes to both my sexuality and my gender.
Boyfriend: So you’re genderqueer?
Boyfriend: I still love you and this changes nothing between us.
For once in my life, everything in my head was perfect. I’m so happy I finally got this burden off my chest. I’ve known for about two years now, and while I’ve been open about my sexuality, I’ve been hiding my gender confusion for a very long time. I feel this gives me the freedom to finally express my gender however I please, and not be stuck as a stereotypical femme.
Came Out Last Night
I just turned 14 yrs old. I have always been in touch with my manly side. My friends always thought I wanted to be a dude, and I guess that is somewhat true. I never really considered myself as gay in any way, but last year I met one of my best friends, Allison, who helped me out a lot. I told her one time I had 3 secrets, and 2 of them I was okay telling her, but the third I was really nervous over. So I sat there texting her until I felt really comfortable and I just came out and said it. And she said she had been able to tell the whole time due to her ‘gaydar’ and that she was also. She said not many people knew, but since I trusted her enough to tell her, she would trust me enough for me to know. Well, I did crush on Allison, it’s hard not to when you trust someone that much. I’ve known I’m half gay for 2 years now. Last night Allison and I were talking and I told her I was tired of hiding who I was, so I sent out a mass text to about 10 of my friends and told them. I told them they should spread it, I wanted them to spread it. There are 2 weeks left of middle school and if I get harrassed, whatever. I won’t know any of these people besides my friends next year because I will be going to a completely different school. If I get beat up, at least it is because I am myself. So thanks, Allison. I’m looking forward to Tuesday.
So I’ve figured out in the past year or so that I like girls, and I’m not sure if I like guys or not. But I’ve been coming out as bisexual to my friends, explaining just that to them, and people are very accepting of me! This one girl, though, I thought was my friend. So I told her, and then she told everyone that I was bi, even people that don’t know me. I mean, I didn’t mind because I’m proud of who I am but I just thought that was an odd thing to do. Well, apparently, one of my friends told me that she these girls were talking about how much of a “weird, disgusting lesbian” I am. And my friend stuck up for me, and then texted me about it on the bus while we were hanging out with people on the bus. I started laughing at how ridiculous the story was, and she asked me, “well are you?” and I said, out loud, “yeah, I’m actually bi.” and this one guy said, “THAT’S FUCKING AWESOME” and this other guy was like “yeah, that’s cool good for you” and we were all laughing hysterically and everyone was being so accepting! It made me really happy, so I decided to come out to my mom when I got home, telling her the story. At first, she said, “you’re to young to know. and you better not be doing this to get attention.” I explained to her that i was sure that I like girls, but I wasn’t sure if I was bi or lesbian or pan, and explained that the reason so many people are coming out earlier is because they’re less ashamed of being who they are. She thought I was trying to be “trendy” but then I explained to her the reality. Then she said, “well, at least you won’t ever get knocked up at some party!” I was a little offended by that, that she thought I would ever do that, but I still laughed and said, “well, yeah, thank god I don’t think I’ll ever get pregnant! I wouldn’t want to go through THAT!” I’m still not sure if I am bi, or lesbian, or pan, but I know that I’ve been crushing on girls for the past couple of years, and that I have such a big crush on this girl that I can’t deny it to myself or anyone else anymore. I am only 15, so maybe I need to just wait and find out if I like dudes before I label myself. So I am sort of just safe under the title of “bisexual” even though I have a feeling I am lesbian. But I just want to thank people like you, on this blog, who support LGBT people. You guys rock, I love these posts too! <3
"Oh thats it?" *talks further about some random stuff*
(Im a bi girl btw)
Today I came out to a friend of mine. I was reeeeeally nervous. I extra told her that I want to come to her house to talk with her about something…
Once I was there we went to her room and I was hum and har for about five minutes… She was guessing some random stuff “Does it has to do with you’re mother” “Are you moving?” ect. Finally I just said:
"mhh, I think I like girls-"
She:”Oh, you like girls more than boys?”
Me “No, I like them both…”
She: “oh, thats it? YOu’re bi?”
Me: “uhmm, yes..”
She:”So what? I know a few gay ppl” *talks about some random stuff*
Well, I guess I was a totally drama queen about it… I was soooo fucking nervous!! But for she it was like I had told her I have ate panckaes for lunch yesterday. Yeah, so what??-attitude
I’m really happy!
I was an average girl growing up. I had boyfriends and drooled over hot guys with my friends. But my whole life I’ve always felt like something wasn’t quite right. I just pushed it to the back of my mind and carried on. However, when I was 12, the unimaginable happened: I developed a crush. On a girl.
My family is really old-fashioned and homophobic, so I kept my newly discovered bisexuality a secret. Let’s face it: I was so far in the closet that I could see Narnia. I was terrified that my friends and family would practically disown me for the way I felt. It wasn’t until I had just turned 14 that I finally told my mom. She is the most accepting person in my family, so naturally I thought that it would be the right move. To say the least, she didn’t react the way I expected. No yelling, cursing, or fire-breathing. She just smiled and shook her head. I was relieved at first, until she muttered the dreadful words: “Don’t be ridiculous, Breanne. It’s just a phase”. Although I was certain of my sexuality, I was really hoping she was right. I was going to be starting high school, and I was terrified of being rejected or worse…bullied.
Fortunately, she wasn’t. I’m now 15, almost a sophomore in high school, and a proud bisexual. I no longer think there’s anything to be afraid of, and I’m happy just being me. I talked to my mom a month ago or so and she’s finally starting to accept the fact that it’s not “just a phase”. I won’t grow out of it. I’m now thrilled to say that I’m slowly but surely starting to come out to my friends as well.
So, if you’re going through a tough time coming out and need someone to talk to, feel free to message me. I don’t judge and I would love to offer as much advice/help as I can.