When I came out to my mother, it was pretty anticlimatic. I was about fourteen years old and had discovered that I had a crush on a girl, and subsequently discovered that I was in fact attracted to girls as well as boys. At that time, I figured that I was bisexual (I have since redefined myself as pansexual) and since I was raised quite liberally, it wasn’t much of a deal for me, except for the fact that I was in love with a girl who was very much straight and oblivious to my giant crush on her (today I think she might have figured it out, but she never said anything).
The only problem was that at first, my mother literally did not believe me. She thought I was pulling her leg.
Like I said, my family’s very liberal, and my mother told me to my face that she thought because she had failed to get aggrieved about me going vegetarian and listening to goth music, I was “claiming” to be bisexual to get a reaction out of her. I was not very happy about that.
She eventually came to accept that I was really, genuinely in love with this girl, and when I finall sat her down a few years later to explain my pansexuality to her, her reaction was mostly along the lines of “but relationships with men are great, women can be difficult partners too, and I want grandchildren!”. As well as telling me that both lesbians and straight men consider bi- or pansexual women “cheaters” and I would have difficulty finding a mate.
So not the best overall, but she does support me and has stopped talking about what she percieves as negative effects of my sexuality.
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